Five Strategies For Finding Unity In Marriage
If you are not the best friend of your spouse, you will not be alone. Loss of contact happens to be the most common precursor of mixed parenting signals, family breakdown, loss of trust, alienation, extramarital affairs, divorce and other diseases.
The good news is that, like most minor trends, this trend is not difficult to change. You just want to care, want to change, and make prudent choices that will help your family.
In order to find unity in marriage, we propose five strategies:
1. Ask for help.
Counseling can be seen as a “12000 mile check” on marriage. Sometimes, in order to realize that you can only see through other lenses, you need a third party’s perspective.
2. Read or listen to books together.
Read one chapter a week and sit down and talk about what you learned. This may be a parenting book, or it may just be an inspiration.
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3. “Date” at least one night a week.
As parents, we are so busy that many couples lose the rhythm of natural communication. Schedule appointments where you care about each other at least once a week.
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4. Show the children the united front.
It is customary to say, “Your mother and I will write back to you after discussing this problem.” Even if you and your wife agree 100%, this answer will let children know that no one backs you. If necessary, please write it on your forehead with neon lights.
5. Make sure your wife is your first confidant.
When things happen in your life, who is your “confidant”? Who will you call first when you hear the good news? Who do you want to talk to about all the little details? If you can’t answer “my wife”, it’s time to change consciously.
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Let’s take a look at these five strategies and see if they are worth focusing on.