Five Reasons Many Marriages Fail
I will never forget the first time I saw a marriage break up. Breaking up surprised my friend Jonas, his wife and others. The empty nest hit them hard, and suddenly the focus of family life seemed to shift. But this is not sudden. This is gradual. This is one of the reasons why marriage fails.
When parents put marriage first, children will be happier.
Life, work, children and responsibilities often overwhelm us. And we can easily forget what brought us together. Hint: Not children! Your marriage is not about children, but about marriage. When parents put marriage first, children will be happier. Here are five reasons why many marriages fail.
1. We forget why we got married.
Why? Because we are no longer there. We don’t do that anymore. We have other things in mind. Help each other remember. After reading the photos, read out the wedding vows loudly and ask her out again.
2. We put ourselves first.
This is a natural response. hungry I want to watch a football match. I want to be close now; please give me a cup of coffee. Turn on the switch and put your spouse first. The interesting thing about serving others is that we tend to love them more. They also tend to provide us with more services.
Our children are more important than marriage.
Putting children in front of their spouses is a big failure. We spoil our children because we want them to feel safe. The most important sense of security for children is that their parents love each other. Any effort parents make in marriage is beneficial to their children. This is a win-win situation.
4. We forget that love is an instant choice, not an emotion.
My parents celebrated their 68th birthday this month. They are very happy today. Because they made hundreds of small decisions. Encouragement, kindness, loyalty and sincerity are all on the way. The reason why the romantic index remains high is because of this decision, not the opposite.
5. It makes us unable to control finance.
Money is the most important reason for couples to break up. It’s no use taking more money. What really helps is a realistic plan, a shared budget decision, and ideas you can all master. My financial expert said, “It’s not too late to make a workable plan.”