What If You Don’t Like Sex?

Whether it’s a honeymoon or you’ve been together for five years, people want our sex life to be stable. We make love every night, and our partner always satisfies us. No problem, no problem, everything is fine. Wrong

Your dissatisfaction with sexual life is a problem faced by many of us, no matter where you are in your relationship. In general, it is difficult to talk about sex, but when we are unhappy, how should we deal with it? Sex is such a private part of our lives, but in order to better understand our partners, it may help us keep in touch.(Needless to say, this is really an explosion, isn’t it?) When sex is not a thriving and interesting part of our relationship, everyone says it should be. What should we do? I’m here to help you! We are studying everything that can make your sexy time better than ever. Include what to try in the bedroom and how to talk about it with your spouse.

Talk to each other

When they say communication is the key, they are not faking! You and your spouse may encounter the problem of not talking in daily life(when was the last time you really asked each other how they were doing?) Or you may not have discussed what you should get from them.

If the relationship itself struggles outside of your sex life, it may require another kind of dialogue. Know your requirements, what works for you and what doesn’t, and then discuss what is happening with them.

What did you want?

In short, if you don’t tell them, they won’t know what’s wrong. More foreplay, more abuse, more emotion(or if you want less!), Please tell your spouse. Don’t be embarrassed to ask what you want. Sex is two-way. Always remember that your happiness is also 50% happiness.

Keep finance and family away from bedroom

When we have anything(especially money, family or friends problems) that bothers us, let alone having sex or not worrying about other things, it’s hard to be intentional. As long as you can, leave these ideas outside your bedroom. This can be achieved by not working in bed or using a mobile phone in bed. You can also talk to your spouse about these issues. So they won’t take up so much space in your mind.

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Never mind the length of time.

You can have perfect sex in just 10 minutes(the speed is underestimated!), But sometimes I worry whether going too fast will help me succeed. Slow down, or let them go whatever they want.(Don’t pun!) take your time. No problem.

Don’t focus too much on daily life.

When sex is daily(making love on the same day every month/week, only doing the same posture, focusing too much on the final goal, etc.), it is difficult to get excited about the same thing repeatedly. Instead of trying to keep up with your usual work, it’s better to change a little. Make love elsewhere in your home(or perfume, crazy in the car!), Change the time(maybe in the morning?!), Or try a new pose you’ve never done before.

Experimental toy

When I was in the grave, I said: sex toys are not just a person! If there are sex toys in the bedroom, you can easily explain what you like to your spouse, or help them understand what it is. It can also be a simple way to make life more interesting. There are also many options for atmosphere, handcuffs and remote control.

Keep flirting

Sometimes couples feel that once they are together, they don’t need to continue flirting. Joking with your spouse may even go as far as you did on your first date. Of course, you are still attracted to your partner, but pretending you haven’t completely dated will slightly increase your attractiveness.