Four Things You Should Do When Your Wife Doesn’t Touch You

After giving birth to my first child, my wife didn’t think about sex at all. Her body, mood and mind are changing. For the first four months, I was deprived of sleep and only slept for three and a half hours every night. Even so, I was prepared to break into the bedroom. But my wife is not here. I sometimes feel rejected, but I find that postpartum mothers experience a lot physically and emotionally. I can’t understand this feeling, but as a husband I must.

Having children may be one of the reasons for the decline in intimacy in marriage, but it is not the only reason. Many marriages are painful in this respect, and even the strongest and most supportive husband feels isolated from his wife. If you notice that intimacy is disappearing from your marriage, then what should you do when your wife doesn’t touch you.

1. Communication.

No matter what reason your wife leaves you, you should face this situation. If you don’t communicate about it, nothing will change. It is essential to share your desires and listen to her demands. In addition, lack of communication can also cause such distance. Did your wife feel what was seen and heard in this relationship? Or does she usually feel neglected, so she is in no mood? Don’t expect to cause physical problems, but share feelings with your wife openly, honestly and weakly.

2. Empathy.

She needs you to see the world with her eyes and understand her point of view.

If your wife doesn’t touch you, maybe it will be different. She may be experiencing depression, lack of confidence or feeling that parenting is failing. Even if it is difficult, you should try your best to be considerate of her. Resonance is to feel her burden and sit together instead of trying to solve the problem. She needs you to see the world with her eyes and understand her point of view. Empathy is the first thing she needs before facing her physical problems to establish an intimate relationship

3. Romantic her.

When was the last time you did something romantic for her without expecting anything in return? If your wife has any suitable romance in her life, it must be yours. I know that children, work and family projects will weaken your romantic side over time, but not necessarily. Be the man who wins her heart! Give her a baby sitter and feed her a sumptuous dinner, which surprised her. Or simply, after the children fall asleep, take her favorite wine home and have dinner in your garden. Use her favorite essential oil and bath to do candlelight bath for her and give her time to relieve pressure. Don’t expect physical contact when doing this.

4. Avoid pornography.

When your wife pushes you away, you may want to use porn, but porn deprives you of your true desire for your wife. This will only create more distance between you. Because of its addiction, it reconnects the brain by desensitizing you. Once you get used to porn, your brain needs it. When this happens, your excitement about your wife won’t excite you any more. Therefore, not only does your wife not want to touch you, you may also not want her to touch you again. This is a disturbing trap that you must avoid.

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