You Know What To Do If Your Wife Makes A Big Mistake.

My wife and I had a big explosion this week. One of them affected you for a while. The argument ended with tears from everyone, including the children who witnessed all the events. As we are still trying to maintain transparency, the details will be published in a future post.

What we said and did deeply hurt each other. I think she is wrong. But my marriage tutor challenged me not to let my feelings dominate my behavior, but to build my behavior on the promise made a few years ago. In other words, my relationship with my wife is what I most desire.

Your wife is no more perfect than mine. Sometimes she does something and says something completely wrong. But don’t let it induce feelings and cause more problems in your marriage. Rather than let your feelings dominate everything and your commitments dominate your actions, let others know that you are a husband and wife who constantly quarrel. Love her unconditionally and promise to do so all my life. I did not make a conditional agreement based on her behavior, but made a contract agreement. There are five things you need to do when your wife is wrong.

1. Honesty.

When my wife does or says things that hurt me, one of my tendencies is to be dishonest. You can do the same. Did she ask you? “What’s the matter?” Or “Is everything okay?” When you answer “nothing” or “yes”, the truth is just the opposite. You can’t do that. You should be frank with her and with yourself.

2. Look at you, not her.

Another tendency is to focus only on her. Especially when she is wrong. Once you start paying attention to her rather than you, you will start to think that her change is the solution to the problem. Changing her is not the solution, because you can’t do it. You can only change yourself. So look at yourself, see what you can control, and start there.

3. A tooth for a tooth.

If you went home and your house caught fire, what would you think if the fire brigade started setting fire around your house? You will think they are crazy, you will lose hope, and your house can be saved from the fire. Similarly, when your wife wrongs you, you cannot wrongly make up for it.

4. Listen. Please don’t listen.

When your wife is wrong and hurts you, I believe you can find a thousand different ways to avoid her and hurt her. You can go all out to work, stay up late, take extra projects, take work home, and hide out until the work is over. You can find countless projects around the house. You can play with your friends, find games and go fishing. These are not necessarily bad. But don’t use them to stay away from your wife and your marriage. On the contrary, you should be more concerned about her and your marriage. Pay more attention to her and her requirements.

5. Treat her well.

This is an exclamation point for your wife to be wrong and handle things when you know it. She may have done something terrible that you can’t imagine, but this behavior will become the salvation of your marriage. Although she doesn’t love you, you still have to pay for loving her. So when she is impatient, be patient with her. When she is not good to you, treat her well. Even if she does, don’t record her mistakes. This will eventually win her heart, and the actions you take will help you get rid of everything she tells you or says. If you persist in this way, your wife will love you in an unimaginable way.

The question of solidarity

Huddle with your child, “why is relationship more important than correctness?”