Why Does Being Alone Not Necessarily Mean Being Lonely
My ideal Saturday morning: get up at 9 o’clock, go out for a cup of coffee, take a walk by the lake of Michigan… alone.
One person is important on my favorite work list. If I’m honest, I’m the kind of person who can be alone for a few days. But not everyone is. I met some people who dared not say they spent a whole day or a few minutes.
When I moved to live alone in a new city that nobody knows, I realized that time alone is not necessarily lonely. As a supporter of embracing and enjoying solitude, I shared five reasons why I stopped avoiding solitude and time passed well.
1. Working for yourself is part of taking care of yourself
This is the best way to deal with self-management on your to-do list. Sign up for yoga, take cooking classes, wear masks and bubble baths, and enjoy yourself. It doesn’t matter whether you meet new friends while eating self-made pasta, or you sweat profusely in a gloomy week to improve your health and do something reassuring. When alone time becomes synonymous with self promotion, it will never have any achievements, boredom, loneliness.
2. Become selfish. Selfishness is not always a bad thing.
When deleting others: “What should I do today?” Equation, you must put yourself first. No longer compromise which movie to watch or which restaurant to eat, the decision is always yours. It’s not just about doing things your own way, it’s more important that you realize that you can work and enjoy it. Although it may be challenging at the beginning, being independent of others, mastering every day by yourself, and looking for happiness is the reward.
Live in the present, live in the present.
If you always plan ahead to become a victim of FOMO or cannot get rid of it completely, spending time alone is the best way to hone these weaknesses. Subconsciously decide to do something alone and try not to reach for the phone. Better to keep it at home. When you disconnect, you will realize how we use our equipment as crutches to fill the gap. Practice with yourself will be natural when you are with others. Don’t scroll on Instagram at dinner.
4. Alone time at the peak.
It’s not always uncomfortable to kill time alone. One’s time can also be indulged. Don’t be sad because you catch your favorite program or read all day. The same principle applies to “selfishness” and enjoying every moment.
5. “Life begins at the end of the comfort zone.”
For you, doing new things or strange things can be challenging, strange or even frightening. This is completely understandable. But when we overcome anxiety and self doubt, we really begin.experienceLife – and everything it can offer. Go to dinner yourself(if Kelly Bradshaw can…), watch a movie or just take a walk to wake up. If you are worried about what strangers will think of you, please don’t worry. When was the last time you saw a person evaluate them? Besides, it has nothing to do with them. This is about you.
Not everyone likes spending a lot of time alone, but like the habit of getting enough sleep and staying healthy, it is about balance and appropriateness. If you feel lonely and you think “alone time” is the last thing you need, you’d better leave yourself there and send a cup of coffee to your friend by text message. If you don’t remember the time you were away from others, it may be in your best interest to organize your schedule.
When was the last time you stole from yourself? What have you done? Tell us with comments!
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