Five Traps To Avoid When Quarreling With Your Wife

recallTom and Jerry? Tom, the cat, always sets elaborate traps for Jerry, the mouse. Tom will inevitably fall into his own trap. Contrary to his wishes, in the next episode, Tom had forgotten everything he had learned and began to set traps again. Of course, the joke is that we all know what will happen.

Similarly, we often set traps when quarreling with our wives. Although in fact we ourselves are trapped again and again. This may be humorous. But unlike Jerry, Jerry got rid of Tom’s trap. Our wives are always dragged into the trap with us. This will lead to real and lasting suffering. Here are the five most common pitfalls when men and wives quarrel.

1. Use your fingers

If there is little progress in the debate, do not assume any responsibility for the status quo. This will immediately make her defend, make the conversation difficult, and ignore the fact that you are part of the problem. Listen, maybe she’s wrong. But almost all phenomena are part of what you can bear. Once you begin to acknowledge that you can do better, you are likely to build trust that will allow for frank and honest dialogue.

2. Settlement

Sometimes we are frustrated by the nature of the discussion, and we can only calculate. You may still be inside, but your thoughts are elsewhere: games, working hours, house projects. When we are at a loss, this is just a way to escape. However, it is almost impossible to make constructive progress. When you notice this happening, consider asking your wife to take the time to gather your thoughts. When walking, you should also do all the things you should do, so that your mind can return to the game, and you can stay in the dialogue after coming back.

3. Weapon free words

If you wrongly decide to hurt your wife with your words, your words may ruin your relationship.

As the saying goes, “The power of life and death lies in the tongue.” If you wrongly decide to hurt your wife with your words, your words may destroy your relationship. If someone throws something at you, you will take up the shield to escape or fight back. All this keeps us away from the relationship we really desire.

4. Response

It’s easy to think of excuses to explain our behavior. It’s not difficult to identify what makes you do things. But this is not particularly useful. Your situation is often beyond your control. If you allow this to be an excuse for your bad choice, you will not grow, nor will your relationship with your wife grow. Similarly, personal responsibility is the key. This does not mean that we sometimes have no good reason to fail. But the only way to grow is to look in the mirror first.

5. Strive for victory

If you are striving for victory, you are likely to fail. You will lose trust. You’ll lose touch. Even if you win the game, you will eventually lose the game in a more expensive way. Don’t get me wrong. You still want to help your spouse see things differently. She may be wrong, and it may be important to change her mind. But if you win an argument with your wife and lose contact, you will lose. Even if you want to express your views, in order to keep in touch, you will debate in this way.