5. The Result Of Sleeping Angrily
Never get angry, go to bed. This is the best wedding tip that the friends who are going to get married get from their old grandfather. His grandparents had a rough time in their marriage and witnessed the love that lasted nearly 50 years. I saw wisdom in his grandfather’s advice. If I have learned anything in my 30 years of marriage with Susan, it is that how couples deal with marital conflicts has a great impact on the overall health and happiness of marriage.
But I also realized how difficult it is to deal with conflicts, especially late at night after a day’s tiredness. In our marriage, Susan and I didn’t spend much of the night in a good way. We were so angry that we went to bed. When this happens, she can fall asleep quickly. When I wake up, it takes me a long time to fall asleep. But we all felt the impact of the unresolved anger the next day. Angry sleep will not only have a cumulative harmful effect on the next day. Here are some negative consequences of being angry while sleeping.
How couples deal with conflict in marriage will have a great impact on the overall health and happiness of marriage.
1. Bricks are added to the wall that divides you into husband and wife.
The higher the wall, the wider the division. As the differences expand, you start arguing more and chatting less with each other. Then one of you will lie down on the sofa for a while and then lie in the other bedroom forever. And… you will know. The increasingly unresolved conflicts have formed barriers to relations, which are increasingly difficult to break through. Anger ends the day’s cycle and there will also be feelings of despair in your relationship.
2. It’s harder to start again the next day.
A good sleep can bring new hope the next morning. But if you go to bed angry with your spouse, your hopes will be dashed. All marriages need to feel victorious when overcoming conflicts. But when the pain of the night before the next day began, the new start was postponed, sometimes even completely lost.
3. Insufficient sleep will damage your health.
Anger not only hurts feelings, it also hurts the body. Many studies have shown that sleep quality affects overall health. Moreover, when you go to bed angry, good sleep is usually affected.
4. Unresolved conflicts hinder short-term and long-term sexual intimacy.
Angry sleep can not only relax the mood, but also reduce the chances of unhealthy sexual intimacy. On the other hand, couples who resolve their differences before going to bed sometimes find themselves suddenly close.
5. Its message to your spouse is that you value “winning” arguments more than maintaining your relationship.
When you have the habit of going to bed angry, the message to your spouse is that marriage and spouse’s happiness are more important than winning in conflict. It may not be what you want to convey, but it is often takeout. No matter how you handle the conflict that ends every day, whether it worsens or destroys the marriage
Shared the above ideas. That doesn’t mean you can always solve all your problems before going to bed. But that doesn’t mean you should go to bed angry. You can agree on one thing with your spouse. That is, tomorrow when you are energetic and ready for a new day, you will talk about it and solve it.
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