What To Do When The Bride Asks Too Much Of Her

If you quickly browse the Internet, you will find that the bride has many “bride” articles and online community posts, playing tricks on their wedding party, guests, family and vendors. Although I don’t think all brides who make unreasonable demands are enough “brides”, the Internet seems to be full of the worst or extreme cases under certain circumstances. Basically, all this means that when you go to a wedding party and the bride asks you some questions, you are likely to find yourself in the same position. It’s just… too much. What should bridesmaids do? You don’t want to ruin the bride. Because this is a very important person in your life. You want the wedding planning process(and the day itself) to be what she wants. But you will never give in to any of her demands. If you like.

Unreasonable expectations about how much clothes, shoes, hair, cosmetics, accessories, etc. will cost, unreasonable requirements for a long vacation, expectations for planned or unbearable extravagant celebrations, or details of the wedding weekend that are not suitable for you, There may be many different ways to “ask too much”. There are some things that the bride should not really expect the best man at the beginning. Sometimes the bride will make reasonable demands first, and then unreasonably cross the border. As Brides pointed out, too much demand is often the result of too much reasonable demand.

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The bridesmaids want to participate, but they don’t want to be used.

Since you will get married on Friday, your bridesmaids are likely to ask for leave to attend the wedding celebration, but you also want them to ask for leave to attend the bachelor party or help with the preparation for a week. If the request comes from you rather than their proposal, it may be too much. Priests want things to go the way they want them to, and they want to participate, but they don’t want to be used. Sometimes rejecting a friend’s single plan means more time to work or go to a luxury place, so it may be difficult. This can hurt feelings, disappointments, or hatred.

The bride cannot ask the bride to act as her personal assistant, change her figure or appearance, attend the wedding, and make the bride heavily in debt. But apart from these extreme examples(I saw on the Internet that the bride asked her to pull grass from her parents’ home to prepare for the wedding), Brides should not, as Madie Eisenhart, the top income director of Practical Wedding, told the New York Times, believe that they have an obligation to agree to things that inconvenience them.

If this makes you uncomfortable, please don’t say “yes”.

It’s hard to say no to a good friend. Especially when she plans the wedding, just because this is the way she saw in Pinterest, or the way she imagined in her mind when thinking about the ideal version of her special day, does not mean that this will happen in real life.

Frankly tell your friends that I want to stay in a hotel because of your budget. She may not stoop, but maybe she will understand this better. If she and you ask her to compromise on her work, or you think it is OK, please talk about why you feel uneasy about your requirements. Explain how you feel about her request. On the one hand, your friend may not know that what she asks is really absurd, uncomfortable or uncomfortable, but on the other hand, your friend may not want to make you embarrassed, embarrassed or uncomfortable. You may reach a compromise.

If you deal with the trend of multiple family members or the participation of your mother, mother-in-law, aunt, family friends, etc. at the wedding party, you may be afraid to have a real conversation with the bride in any form. You may think that you are also against all these people, or you need to deal with complex family relationships that have nothing to do with you. In this case, and other groomsmen(perhaps your close groomsmen!) It can help you determine whether you are overreacting or whether this is a real problem that needs to be solved. Then, if you need to talk to the bride(and her family), the number will be favorable. Although this is true, if I really face the bride directly, I don’t want you to think that I am colluding with someone. The friendship may break up, or it may last longer than the wedding planning process. It’s really sad.

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But sometimes you may have to deal with things.

If you are uneasy about what your friends ask of you or agree with you, you must be willing to compromise. It is unfair to ask the bride to give up everything you don’t agree with(for example, wear high heels instead of flat shoes), or do things she doesn’t want to do in her own activities. Because it’s not your business. However, it is opposed to spending a day in a luxury hotel SPA, and it is completely reasonable to suggest a more modest luxury treatment. Tell your friends that one week before the wedding, you can’t help at the last minute, but you can be willing to help everything you can.

After all, you want this experience to be wonderful for all of you, but wedding planning is often complicated.(Not to mention what will happen if something goes wrong that day.) It’s really hard when your friends ask you to be too many groomsmen. However, you not only hope that your friendship can withstand all this, but also in an ideal situation, the day after they say I will, it is as solid as when she invited you to the wedding at the beginning.