5 Reasons To Forgive Your Wife

Forgive and forget? One is poor memory, unless I talk about the way my wife hurt me. I remember these very clearly. They are in the list that comes to mind, not far from my mouth. When we quarreled, all her past mistakes suddenly came to my tongue. I’m sure you will guess that such arguments are not going well, and they certainly do not help the development of our relationship.

We have all heard “Forgive and forget”, and may tell our children. But if we are honest, it is difficult, if not impossible, to forget. Forgiveness refers to the cancellation of debts, which is very important to the relationship and happiness with the wife. Here are five reasons to forgive your wife, even if you can’t forget.

1. Forgiveness is freedom.

According to Nelson Mandela, “Hate is like drinking poison. I hope it can kill your enemies.” Scientific facts prove this. The Mayo Clinic’s “Forgiveness: Abandoning Resentment and Bitterness” study shows that resentment and pain are harmful to health. They increase the incidence of anxiety and depression and weaken the immune system. We think forgiveness is to get our wives out of trouble. But forgiveness is a healing act that can get rid of the trauma of others.

2. Forgiveness is a choice.

Unfortunately, the phrase “forgive and forget” connects the two in an unrealistic way. If you must wait for forgiveness until you forget something, forgiveness may never happen. The experience of my wife and I is just a normal trauma caused by two different people working together to create life, but some of you have experienced deep trauma or betrayal. This may be unforgettable(even wise). But you can still choose to release your wife.

3. Forgiveness can not reduce unhappiness.

Forgiving someone is not meant to diminish his or her rudeness. In fact, in order to forgive the rudeness, we must admit that it is rude! Forgiveness is not the same as saying, “You know what? It doesn’t matter.” In order for us to truly forgive, we must first call these behaviors what they are, or we do not really forgive. That’s why forgiveness is so powerful. You admit the seriousness of the crime, but choose not to put it on your wife’s head.

4. Forgiveness has nothing to do with feelings.

Forgiveness is not letting your wife’s behavior determine your choice of behavior.

I never thought of forgiving my wife. I’m not a good person. It won’t be you. But forgiveness is not something we feel. Forgiveness is not letting your wife’s behavior determine your choice of behavior. In many cases, we still need to deal with the impact of these behaviors. But if we practice forgiveness, even if we don’t like it, we will know that one day we will come to such a place. Forgiving her there is actually like a gift to ourselves.

5. Forgiveness begets forgiveness.

I have a quick message for you. Just as your wife needs you to practice forgiveness, you also need her to forgive you. You can’t expect your wife to give you something you don’t want to give yourself. For you, the best way to accept the forgiveness you need is to forgive her. If you forgive her immediately, she will forgive you immediately.

Forgiving your wife may make you feel lost, just like being used. But the opposite is true. Forgiving your wife is a generous investment in your relationship. This will bring great rewards to both of you.