When Will The Relationship Be Dissolved?
In a perfect world, there will be a rule book to let you know when the relationship is suitable for us(obviously, this is a small manual with a highlighter pen that is easy to carry). Since we haven’t, we all know whether we are making the right decision to maintain the relationship or what it is like to leave the relationship. Whether it’s your spouse, your best friend, or your relationship with your family, sometimes problems occur and it’s hard to decide what to do. The pressure is overwhelming. Do you want to stay without wasting time, or do you want to know that this is just a difficult period that can be passed?
although we didn’t give you a highlighter(we know our shortcomings), here are indicators about when to end the relationship.
1. When walking on the eggshell
This is unhealthy. Repetition: unhealthy. It’s a trap to feel uneasy around someone. A broken heart is poisonous. The purpose of love is to find someone who knows who you are and loves you. If someone doesn’t seem interested, the number of emoticons you send and the degree of understanding of their requirements will not be different. So the next time you find that you ask your best friend if you say “too much”, remind yourself that you are a great person who deserves to think like this.(Instead of making people feel that they should turn themselves into another person.)
2. When it affects your daily life
The relationship is about compromise. This is a simple fact. If you compromise others and ignore the things that you missed the deadline and made others happy for you, take a step back. Your personal life cannot be reduced at the expense of the happiness of others. Similarly, another problem is the relationship that makes you upset, unable to feel yourself or having little energy to get up. In general, positive and healthy relationships are expressed by your own happiness. Life is too short. Because relationships can reduce your happiness.
3. When you can’t see the future
You will find that this element will become part of the list. This is a typical answer, much easier than it looks. When we say that you can’t see the future, we mean that your other half’s views completely conflict with yours. It’s not that he likes hard corn rolls, you like soft corn rolls, he doesn’t want children, you want three points of view. Another problem is that you want him to be pious and become his future wife, but you don’t want to change your religion. Sometimes it comes down to a person’s characteristics. If he is thrifty, you buy pants of all colors. This may cause problems in the future. Notice if you give in, and start there.
4. When you think you can’t forgive them
There may be many reasons why people can’t forget what happened in their relationship. We are not here to judge. There is a reason to torture you. This in itself makes your feelings fully effective. But sticking to it will unintentionally hold grudges and affect your health and relationship quality. Forgiveness requires great strength. Sometimes a sense of betrayal completely masks our ability to do so. No matter how you decide to deal with the relationship, remind yourself that forgiving someone is not only to ease the negative feelings towards the person, but also to restore yourself.
5. Keep thinking about whether to leave
although it is normal to ask questions about feelings occasionally, if you find that you often want to live without this person, you should be honest. Maybe you are in a bad mood. Because you can’t really explain why such persistent thoughts appear in your mind. This is understandable. It sounds silly, but we know ourselves better than we think. It’s always wise to think about what our intuition can tell us.