Seven Opportunities We And Our Wife Missed
Every day is full of missed opportunities. From my experience as a husband and my conversations with other husbands, I found that most of us are working hard in most aspects of life except marriage. Once we reach a certain point in our marriage, we usually drive automatically after the baby is born.
As a result, many opportunities to cultivate connection, trust and lasting love were missed. Here are seven opportunities we often miss to be with our wives.
1. A meaningful morning greeting
How about the interaction with my wife in the morning? How we start and end our lives creates the rhythm of life. Decide to use language or body to start interaction with your wife.
2. Daily expression of gratitude
Notice what your wife always does for you and thank her for it.
I noticed something the other day. I cooked dinner(about once a week). When we sat down to eat, our children said, “Thanks, Dad, this is great.” They were in a good mood. But do you know that? My wife eats different dinners six nights a week, but no one admits it. You and your wife should get used to daily life. Notice what your wife always does for you and thank you for it.
3. Surprisingly express your love for her
This is not about missed opportunities, but about opportunities that we could have created but did not. I remember how you did it on a date. Just to let her know you’re missing her? When was the last time you did this? It can be a gift, a memo or a text message. That may not be very big. Just some accidents.
4. Play with her
When you are young, energetic and like flirting, flirting is often an important part of your relationship. When life is full and difficult, when you are tired, you will often lose the advantage of that prank. As if we had missed most of the opportunities, we didn’t do that because we needed to focus. But with play, with unexpected happiness. We don’t play games, ride bicycles or explore the world around us. Because it’s very useful. But that’s because it’s interesting. We can all use more happiness in our lives and relationships.
5. Prefer to face conflict when you want to avoid conflict
This may be counter intuitive, but fighting creates opportunities to connect. Generally speaking, we are in defensive mode when arguing. But what if the next time you and your friend An Hai disagree, you think you pay more attention to establishing contact with him than to establishing the right relationship? I’m not saying you lost all your decisions. I’m just suggesting that listening to her may be more important than listening to her weaknesses in her argument. Then you can win the battle. Sometimes winning is really a missed opportunity.
6. Her efforts exceed expectations
Listen, I’ve been married for more than 20 years. This means that on many anniversaries, we just don’t want to make it bigger. But what I learned is that when two people celebrate together, no matter how good it is, it will not help the interpersonal relationship. Every year you spend together is worth celebrating. Don’t miss it. You don’t need to spend a lot of money, but you always have to do something.
7. Dinner routine of love
What’s the last thing you do every night? Whether you are at home or on business, you should contact your wife in some way. If you are at home, a simple kiss or conversation is an important rhythm before one or both of you go to bed. No one can video chat or make phone calls. Just as the beginning of connection is the key, the end is also the key. To miss the rhythm is to miss the opportunity.